Appreciate Him

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Appreciation and admiration sound the same at first thought, but they are used differently in Fascinating Womanhood (FW). You appreciate a man for what he does for you, but you admire a man for what he is. It is possible to appreciate a man and not admire him. However, to successfully live a fascinating-womanhood lifestyle you must have all three of the A's (accept, admire, appreciate) in place. I will say it once more, "The three A's are the foundation upon which all the rest of FW rests. If you do not grasp and practice these principles it will not matter if your house sparkles and your dinners are fit for kings. On the other hand, if you do these three things it makes up for a less-than-perfect house and hamburger helper.

In order for a woman to appreciate a man she needs to develop a new view of him as seen through new eyes. The first eye is dim to his faults. The second eye sees him as the rest of the world does. But the third and most important eye sees him as only you can and appreciates him as no one else does.

To fully appreciate him you need to get beyond the superficial things like looks, income, status and honor in the community. Work on a deeper set of values. Look for fine character traits such as dependability, honesty, generosity, kindness, faith and sensitivity that only you are in a position to notice. Become aware of his intellectual gifts and special talents he portrays. You need to be careful to appreciate the things he does for you - especially the little things that may go unnoticed. Don't miss opportunities to appreciate him when he does things like open doors, carry groceries or other heavy items, care for the children, help with household chores, do fix-up jobs, yard work and buys you things. Express appreciation for his effort in earning a living. You may say that these things are his responsibility, so why should you thank him just for doing his duty? Just because something is our duty, doesn't mean we don't want to be appreciated. Ingratitude, even for something you perceive as duty, is a serious flaw in anyone.

If you can't find anything to appreciate then there are some special things you can do. The first is have faith in his worth and look to his better side. This is a great quote from Goethe, "If you treat a man as he is, he will stay as he is, but if you treat him as if he were what he ought to be and could be, he will become that bigger and better man." Another thing you can do is go back into the past and appreciate in the present something he did. Sometimes this gives him the spark of life to carry on. Looking for virtues beneath his faults will certainly give you something to appreciate. Usually, what appears to be a fault on the outside, is just covering up a virtue on the inside, that the three A's can bring out.

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