Sometimes the differences between Inner Happiness and Radiant Happiness get confusing. Inner happiness is not something you can just “put on”. It is a trait that is earned by your proper actions. You don’t just get Inner Happiness, but it comes about as a natural outcome of a good character and good actions.
Radiant Happiness, on the other hand, is something you decide to do. (I personally think it is hard to radiate happiness on the outside when you don’t have any on the inside, and it’s hard to have it on the inside when you are acting so glum - so inner and radiant happiness are somewhat connected.) When you suddenly smile and light up your face, or when you express joy at some small thing; when you laugh lightly, clap your hands, or let yourself sparkle, you are expressing outer or radiant happiness. Radiant happiness has the ability to lift the mood of those around you.
You need not have beauty or a wonderful figure to express radiant happiness - this quality is far more important than those. Don’t rest on your natural beauty. We all have seen women blessed with good looks, but whose personality ruined them. They became ugly in our eyes because of ugly actions. It is easy to lose your appeal when you have no vivacity or liveliness in you. This doesn’t mean you should let your looks go, but watch your reflection in the mirror and see how much radiant happiness does for you.
Just as we have noticed beautiful women without any real charm, there are women who have made real use of the quality of radiating happiness. When we look at them we wonder what it is that men see in them. We look at them through women’s eyes, but when you look at them as a man does, you will see where the attraction is - it’s in the life they exude. Smart women who lack natural looks or have some defect make up for it with radiance. This quality goes far with men.
We all work hard at being attractive to men, but many of us make the mistake of thinking it is stylish clothes, attractive hairstyles, or artfully applied makeup. While these outer things should not be ignored, (as we learned in the preceeding chapters on Femininity), they are not as important as your disposition, which should be sunny and bright. What good will all your hard work do if you look like a sour grouch?
Literature reveals traits of radiant women. They have been described as women who “shed joy around” and “cast light upon dark days”. Others were “kind, fresh, smiling” with a “smiling heart”. Woodrow Wilson said of his wife, Ellen, “She was so radiant, so happy!” No one wants to be around a gloomy, depressed, or overly serious woman - especially men. They would rather enjoy the company of a woman who is vibrant, happy and alive!