The Working Wife Success Stories
Just like the moon, shine in your sphere.
She has her priorities straight.
N.J. explains her thinking before and after being in the working world.
I am a sahm now, but started out working. When dh
and I were first married, I kept my job. The deep
down true reasons I kept working were lack of
faith in him. I do know that he would have
supplied all of my needs and more with his own
earnings, all of my earnings were extras that,
looking back, were nice of course, but not truly
needed. DH wanted me to stop working once we had
our first child, but again, lack of faith kept me
working. (two-thirds of our household income came
from my work) Oh, yes, I had plenty of good solid
reasons for working, like our lack of insurance
because dh was self employed (benefits) and
unexpressed fears of what would happen to me
if...? My parents divorced when I was a teenager
[how parents handle it effect children of every
age!]. So ds spent time in 3 different child care
situations in his first 20 months of life. Nearly
all of my earnings went to pay for child care and
taxes, and dh and I were not happy ds was
learning some things we would rather not. DD was
born 20 months after ds, and I was hit with the
realization that dh is absolutely right, I need
to stay home and raise these precious darlings.
Staying home, I don't know how I ever had time to
get everything done while I worked full time. Ok,
you caught me, I didn't get everything done! :0)
My dh has become my number one priority. No
longer is my employer number one. My ds and dd
are priorities, we chat while waiting for the bus
and I meet them at the bus stop every day to walk
back to the house. We can even make cookies if
the mood strikes. I'm trying to keep the house
better [really working on getting rid of clutter
to make it easier] and try to have favorite foods
on hand for our family. I am the one in charge of
the tone of our household. DH commented that he
really likes having me home. He mentioned before
that I was really upset by some of the office
politics when I was working, and that I am more
calm and level-headed now.
Oh, do I miss the income? Not at all! In fact, dh
has increased what he brings into our household
slightly (not the full amount), and our family
still has enough to buy extras and go on family
vacations. It may be I am more frugal with
spending on groceries and household goods, and we
don't go out to eat just because I am too tired
to fix something, it is a special treat to go out
to eat now.
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